Ghandi, Carl Rogers, and Anger
Damn. Damn, damn damn. I wasn’t empathetic. I wasn’t loving. I wasn’t non-violent. Soulmate and I got into a heated discussion with his parents. There’s a lot of hurt there, but instead of dealing with...
View ArticleMom, is it ever ok to lie?
My son and I have been talking about lies and truth lately. (No big shock there.) We had both concluded, independently, that we don’t like “white lies,” or, in fact, any lies at all, and that...
View ArticleBeing a kid is scary
July 15, 2006. I used to be a child. I had great parents who loved me and respected me as a person. But sometimes, it was scary. And sometimes, I remember. So tonight, I was explaining something to my...
View ArticleLife and Love, or Just Food?
It’s been a long while since I wrote anything here. Local food, whole, real food made of actual living things was really easy to write about at first, but after a while it becomes something like the...
View ArticleNot sure I like NVC "requests," either.
NVC (never heard of it?) says that if you want a better chance at getting your needs met, you should make a clear request (and not a demand). And Marshall tells us we can tell the difference because if...
View ArticleCan Words Hurt Us?
When Marshall Rosenberg talks about NVC, he sometimes quotes the schoolyard rhyme, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” I can’t shake the idea that there’s something...
View ArticleGetting Real for Mothers Day
You might know that I devote my life to love in every moment, and that, generally speaking, I am honest. And if you know me at all you know that I miss the mark on these things all the time—more on the...
View ArticleWhat’s all this NVC stuff?
I mention “NVC” sometimes. Along with Zen and a few other things, it has informed my daily practice, and feels like a big part of who I am. Sometimes I hear curiosity about what it is, so I thought I’d...
View ArticleHoly crap. 20 minutes to peace
This TED talk really made my jaw hit the floor. You may not know this about me, but… my life has been rough. I don’t mean I’m a victim. I mean I’ve been unhappy. Like 20-years-on-Prozac unhappy. (And...
View ArticleWhat story do you live in?
Brene Brown says everybody has shame, but nobody wants to talk about it. But not talking about it lets us overestimate its power. I am happy to listen to my shame, but I don’t accept its theories about...
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